UNHEALTHY NATION

DECEPTIVE APPEARANCE

This is a true incidence narrated 2 me by my paediatrician friend.One day he saw a well built man in his waiting chamber on cctv ,whoo has come 2 show his child 2 him and was creating nuisance for early appoinment.He looked like local goon ,had a gun strapped on him and few chamchas/sidekicks accompanying him.My friend got slightely intimated with him and asked his staff 2 grant an early appoinment 2 him.This became an routine for some time.

One day the child came with his grandmother .My friend asked her about the absence of father of the child and why he has not come 2day.She answered that my son is afraid of UR clinic .I used 2 bring him here for vaccination when he was a child and he is still afraid of those pricks U gave him.He avoids coming here.

SO MUCH FOR APPEARNACES.

MONEY MINDED

There R persons who have only one thing on their mind –MONEY. There thought process is simple n open 2 all. In every topic their interest is only in money. If U bought a item ,gift or house .They R only interested in price. There parameter 2 judge a gift or dress or person is price tag or how much u earn. If U earn more U R big N they R interested in U. Whatever the talk their talk is centred around money. What U call these people –Money minded- Poor or Laksmi  Ke  pujari. They only pray Godess Laksmi-  Godess of MONEY.

The thoughts may become repetitive and a person is unable 2 remove them form mind. Saving money becomes an obcession  and person derives pleasure from saving money . One of my relative has immense wealth but he sleeps on floor .No bed in bedroom. The drawing room is not furnished and has little furniture. One of my relative cant spend a single paisa on his or wife health despite having enough money.

Disease becomes acute when he can destroy relations n friendship for money .I know a instance when father knew the disease in his son and had 2 leave money with somebody else  for expenditure in cremation and last rights for his own ,knowing prettywell  that the son will not spend money for the same.

TREATMENT- No known treatment in books.

  Behavior therapy may be tried in early stages. SSRI  may be tried as drug treatment.

HOW 2 MAKE LIFE SIMPLE

Life is not complex. We are complex. Life is simple,
and the simple thing is the right thing.- Oscar Wilde

1. Don’t try to read other people’s minds. Don’t make other people try to read yours. Communicate.

2. Be polite, but don’t try to be friends with everyone around you. Instead, spend time nurturing your relationships with the people who matter most to you.

3. Your health is your life, keep up with it. Get an annual physical check-up.

4. Live below your means. Don’t buy stuff you don’t need. Always sleep on big purchases. Create a budget and savings plan and stick to both of them.

5. Get enough sleep every night. An exhausted mind is rarely productive.

6. Get up 30 minutes earlier so you don’t have to rush around like a mad man. That 30 minutes will help you avoid speeding tickets, tardiness, and other unnecessary headaches.

7. Get off your high horse, talk it out, shake hands or hug, and move on.

8. Don’t waste your time on jealously. The only person you’re competing against is yourself.

9. Surround yourself with people who fill your gaps. Let them do the stuff they’re better at so you can do the stuff you’re better at.

10. Organize your living space and working space.

11. Get rid of stuff you don’t use.

12. Ask someone if you aren’t sure.

13. Spend a little time now learning a time-saving trick or shortcut that you can use over and over again in the future.

14. Don’t try to please everyone. Just do what you know is right.

15. Don’t drink alcohol or consume recreational drugs when you’re mad or sad. Take a jog instead.

16. Be sure to pay your bills on time.

17. Fill up your gas tank on the way home, not in the morning when you’re in a hurry.

18. Use technology to automate tasks.

19. Handle important two-minute tasks immediately.

20. Relocate closer to your place of employment.

21. Don’t steal.

22. Always be honest with yourself and others.

23. Say “I love you” to your loved ones as often as possible.

24. Single-task. Do one thing at a time and give it all you got.

25. Finish one project before you start another.

26. Be yourself.

27. When traveling, pack light. Don’t bring it unless you absolutely must.

28. Clean up after yourself. Don’t put it off until later.

29. Learn to cook, and cook.

30. Make a weekly (healthy) menu, and shop for only the items you need.

31. Consider buying and cooking food in bulk. If you make a large portion of something on Sunday, you can eat leftovers several times during the week without spending more time cooking.

32. Stay out of other people’s drama. And don’t needlessly create your own.

33. Buy things with cash.

34. Maintain your car, home, and other personal belongings you rely on.

35. Smile often, even to complete strangers.

36. If you hate doing it, stop it.

37. Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level of patience you would have with your baby brother.

38. Apologize when you should.

39. Write things down.

40. Be curious. Don’t be scared to learn something new.

41. Explore new ideas and opportunities often.

42. Don’t be shy. Network with people. Meet new people.

43. Don’t worry too much about what other people think about you.

44. Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven, and likeminded.

45. Don’t text and drive. Don’t drink and drive.

46. Drink water when you’re thirsty.

47. Don’t eat when you’re bored. Eat when you’re hungry.

48. Exercise every day. Simply take a long, relaxing walk.

49. Let go of things you can’t change. Concentrate on things you can.

50. Find hard work you actually enjoy doing.

51. Realize that the harder you work, the luckier you will become.

52. Follow your heart. Don’t waste your life fulfilling someone else’s dreams and desires.

53. Set priorities for yourself and act accordingly.

54. Take it slow and add up all your small victories.

55. However good or bad a situation is now, it will change. Accept this simple fact.

56. Excel at what you do. Otherwise you’ll just frustrate yourself.

57. Mature, but don’t grow up too fast.

58. Realize that you’re never quite as right as you think you are.

59. Build something or do something that makes you proud.

60. Make mistakes, learn from them, laugh about them, and move along.

Oh, and enjoy life’s simple pleasures. They’re free and better than anything money can buy. ;-)

AWAKENING

 AWAKENING.

You realize it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to magically appear over the next horizon.

You realize that in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you…and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are…and that’s OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions.

You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself…and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.

Your stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you – or didn’t do for you – and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.

You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and everything isn’t always about you.

So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself…and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties…and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.

You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with.

You learn that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” looking for you next fix.

You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.

You learn that you don’t know everything, it’s not you job to save the world and that you can’t teach a pig to sing. You learn the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.

Then you learn about love. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You learn that alone does not mean lonely.

You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.

You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.

You learn that your body really is your temple. You begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drinking more water, and take more time to exercise.

You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and so you take more time to rest. And, just food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So you take more time to laugh and to play.

You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen.

More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it’s OK to risk asking for help.

You learn the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms.

You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.

You learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people…and you lean not to always take it personally.

You learn that nobody’s punishing you and everything isn’t always somebody’s fault. It’s just life happening. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.

You lean that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.

You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.

Then, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than you heart’s desire.

You make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.

Finally, with courage in you heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.

LETTER BY A LADY

This is the stuff legends are made of..Worth a read..

THE GIRL WRITING AS HERSELF.... 

It was probably the April of 1974. Bangalore was getting warm and gulmohars were blooming at the IISc campus. I was the only girl in my postgraduate department and was staying at the ladies' hostel. Other girls were pursuing research in different departments of Science. I was looking forward to going abroad to complete a doctorate in computer science. I had been offered scholarships from Universities in the US... I had not thought of taking up a job in India. 

One day, while on the way to my hostel from our lecture-hall complex, I saw an advertisement on the notice board. It was a standard job-requirement notice from the famous automobile company Telco (now Tata Motors)... It stated that the company required young, bright engineers, hardworking and with an excellent academic background, etc. 

At the bottom was a small line: 'Lady Candidates need not apply.' I read it and was very upset. For the first time in my life I was up against gender discrimination. 

Though I was not keen on taking up the job, I saw it as a challenge. I had done extremely well in academics, better than most of my male peers... Little did I know then that in real life academic excellence is not enough to be successful? 

After reading the notice I went fuming to my room. I decided to inform the topmost person in Telco's management about the injustice the company was perpetrating. I got a postcard and started to write, but there was a problem: I did not know who headed Telco 

I thought it must be one of the Tatas. I knew JRD Tata was the head of the Tata Group; I had seen his pictures in newspapers (actually, Sumant Moolgaokar was the company's chairman then) I took the card, addressed it to JRD and started writing. To this day I remember clearly what I wrote. 'The great Tatas have always been pioneers. They are the people who started the basic infrastructure industries in India, such as iron and steel, chemicals, textiles and locomotives they have cared for higher education in India since 1900 and they were responsible for the establishment of the Indian Institute of Science. Fortunately, I study there. But I am surprised how a company such as Telco is discriminating on the basis of gender.' 

I posted the letter and forgot about it. Less than 10 days later, I received a telegram stating that I had to appear for an interview at Telco's Pune facility at the company's expense. I was taken aback by the telegram. My hostel mate told me I should use the opportunity to go to Pune free of cost and buy them the famous Pune saris for cheap! I collected Rs30 each from everyone who wanted a sari when I look back, I feel like laughing at the reasons for my going, but back then they seemed good enough to make the trip. 

It was my first visit to Pune and I immediately fell in love with the city. 

To this day it remains dear to me. I feel as much at home in Pune as I do in Hubli, my hometown. The place changed my life in so many ways. As directed, I went to Telco's Pimpri office for the interview. 

There were six people on the panel and I realized then that this was serious business. 

'This is the girl who wrote to JRD,' I heard somebody whisper as soon as I entered the room. By then I knew for sure that I would not get the job. The realization abolished all fear from my mind, so I was rather cool while the interview was being conducted. 

Even before the interview started, I reckoned the panel was biased, so I told them, rather impolitely, 'I hope this is only a technical interview.' 

They were taken aback by my rudeness, and even today I am ashamed about my attitude.  The panel asked me technical questions and I answered all of them. 

Then an elderly gentleman with an affectionate voice told me, 'Do you know why we said lady candidates need not apply? The reason is that we have never employed any ladies on the shop floor. This is not a co-ed college; this is a factory. When it comes to academics, you are a first ranker throughout. We appreciate that, but people like you should work in research laboratories. 

I was a young girl from small-town Hubli. My world had been a limited place. 

I did not know the ways of large corporate houses and their difficulties, so I answered, 'But you must start somewhere, otherwise no woman will ever be able to work in your factories.' 

Finally, after a long interview, I was told I had been successful. So this was what the future had in store for me. Never had I thought I would take up a job in Pune. I met a shy young man from Karnataka there, we became good friends and we got married. 

It was only after joining Telco that I realized who JRD was: the uncrowned king of Indian industry. Now I was scared, but I did not get to meet him till I was transferred to Bombay. One day I had to show some reports to Mr Moolgaokar, our chairman, who we all knew as SM. I was in his office on the first floor of Bombay House (the Tata headquarters) when, suddenly JRD walked in. That was the first time I saw 'appro JRD'. Appro means 'our' in Gujarati. This was the affectionate term by which people at Bombay House called him. I was feeling very nervous, remembering my postcard episode. SM introduced me nicely, 'Jeh (that's what his close associates called him), this young woman is an engineer and that too a postgraduate. 

She is the first woman to work on the Telco shop floor.' JRD looked at me. I was praying he would not ask me any questions about my interview (or the postcard that preceded it). 

Thankfully, he didn't. Instead, he remarked. 'It is nice that girls are getting into engineering in our country. By the way, what is your name?' 

'When I joined Telco I was Sudha Kulkarni, Sir,' I replied. 'Now I am Sudha Murthy.' He smiled and kindly smile and started a discussion with SM. As for me, I almost ran out of the room. 

After that I used to see JRD on and off. He was the Tata Group chairman and I was merely an engineer. There was nothing that we had in common. I was in awe of him. 

One day I was waiting for Murthy, my husband, to pick me up after office hours. To my surprise I saw JRD standing next to me. I did not know how to react. Yet again I started worrying about that postcard. Looking back, I realize JRD had forgotten about it. It must have been a small incident for him, but not so for me. 

'Young lady, why are you here?' he asked. 'Office time is over.' I said, 'Sir, I'm waiting for my husband to come and pick me up.' JRD said, 'It is getting dark and there's no one in the corridor. 

I'll wait with you till your husband comes.' 

I was quite used to waiting for Murthy, but having JRD waiting alongside made me extremely uncomfortable. 

I was nervous. Out of the corner of my eye I looked at him. He wore a simple white pant and shirt. He was old, yet his face was glowing. There wasn't any air of superiority about him. I was thinking, 'Look at this person. He is a chairman, a well-respected man in our country and he is waiting for the sake of an ordinary employee.' 

Then I saw Murthy and I rushed out. JRD called and said, 'Young lady, tell your husband never to make his wife wait again.' In 1982 I had to resign from my job at Telco. I was reluctant to go, but I really did not have a choice. I was coming down the steps of Bombay House after wrapping up my final settlement when I saw JRD coming up. He was absorbed in thought. I wanted to say goodbye to him, so I stopped. He saw me and paused. 

Gently, he said, 'So what are you doing, Mrs. Kulkarni?' (That was the way he always addressed me.) 'Sir, I am leaving Telco.' 

'Where are you going?' he asked. 'Pune, Sir. My husband is starting a company called Infosys and I'm shifting to Pune.' 

'Oh! And what will you do when you are successful.' 

'Sir, I don't know whether we will be successful.' 'Never start with diffidence,' he advised me 'Always start with confidence. When you are successful you must give back to society. Society gives us so much; we must reciprocate. Wish you all the best.' 

Then JRD continued walking up the stairs. I stood there for what seemed like a millennium. That was the last time I saw him alive. 

Many years later I met Ratan Tata in the same Bombay House, occupying the chair JRD once did. I told him of my many sweet memories of working with Telco. Later, he wrote to me, 'It was nice hearing about Jeh from you. The sad part is that he's not alive to see you today.' 

I consider JRD a great man because, despite being an extremely busy person, he valued one postcard written by a young girl seeking justice. He must have received thousands of letters everyday. He could have thrown mine away, but he didn't do that. He respected the intentions of that unknown girl, who had neither influence nor money, and gave her an opportunity in his company. He did not merely give her a job; he changed her life and mindset forever. 

Close to 50 per cent of the students in today's engineering colleges are girls. And there are women on the shop floor in many industry segments. I see these changes and I think of JRD. If at all time stops and asks me what I want from life, I would say I wish JRD were alive today to see how the company we started has grown. He would have enjoyed it wholeheartedly.

My love and respect for the House of Tata remains undiminished by the passage of time. I always looked up to JRD. I saw him as a role model for his simplicity, his generosity, his kindness and the care he took of his employees. Those blue eyes always reminded me of the sky; they had the same vastness and magnificence.  (Sudha Murthy is a widely published writer and chairperson of the Infosys Foundation involved in a number of social development initiatives. Infosys chairman Narayana Murthy is her husband.) 

Article sourced from: Lasting Legacies (Tata Review- Special Commemorative Issue 2004), brought out by the house of Tatas to commemorate the 100th birth anniversary of JRD Tata on July 29, 2004 .

Sudha Murthy and Narayana Murthy

SUGAR N SALT

Humen came 2 this Earth 1.5 Million years ago.  We R using salt less than 5000 years. Sugar we R using for less than 200 years. Our body is yet 2 be used 2 these chemicals and we dont need these chemicals 2 live.

10 things

No One is Perfect.  The quicker this is realized the faster you can get on with being excellent.  Start every morning ready to fight harder than you did the day before and run further than you ever imagine.
Avoid over explaining yourself.  Be confident with who you are.
Keep balance in your life.  Write down what’s most important to you and show up.  Sometimes we tend to do the things that are most important to us when it’s written down.
Play the hand you were dealt.  Have the courage to face challenges head on it builds character.  Start looking for a way through instead of a way out.
Be a student of life.  Learn something new every day.  The day you stop learning is the day you become obsolete so keep learning.
No Excuses.  Stop making excuses replace them with ways to do better.  Excuses are a waste of time and energy.
Let others know where you Stand.  Be uncompromising and be up front when someone steps on your core values.     
Never be afraid of a challenge.  You put on your shoes like every other man.  Now it comes down to who wants it more.
Service to others.  Small, simple or important be a volunteer and give the very best of you. 
Work like hell.  Everyone has a job to do so do it.  Cross every “T” and dot every “I”. 
Discover You.  Find your passion, life purpose, and take action.
Don’t take it Personal.  Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself self confidence shows that you’re comfortable in your own skin.
Manage your time.  Our situation and environment is ever changing so be careful not to confuse the things that are urgent with the things that are important.  Look for time wasters and eliminate them.
Ask for help.  Life can be tough remember you never have to do it alone.
Do your homework.  Know what you getting into before you start.  Doing your homework reduces uncertainty and fear.
Day Dream Often.  On the weekend when you are relaxing embrace a day dream.  During the week take action to preserve your dreams.
Be A HERO.  Cultivate a healthy dose of forgiveness and set someone free.  Learn to forgive others and stop carrying those bags of hate, guilt or regret.    
Stay One Step Ahead.  Be proactive, Take the initiative, Brainstorm with the big picture in mind.
Self Love.  Become your own priority.  Strive to be the you, you want to be. 
Finish what you started.  Avoid the urge to stray.

CAN U LEARN EMOTIONAL SKILLS

It is very important to learn Social and Emotional Learning (SEL), which teaches students ways to moderate their own emotions and manage conflicts with others. Through activities like guided meditations, conflict resolution workshops, and reflective writing exercises, SEL offers children the space to calm themselves, observe the world, and reduce emotional distractions so that they are free to concentrate more effectively on what they are learning. 

FIND UR TRUE SELF

Find True Self Esteem
True self-esteem is not the same thing as improving your self-image. Self-image results from what other people think of you. The true self lies beyond images. It can be found at a level of existence that is independent of the good and bad opinions of others. It is fearless. It has infinite worth. When you shift your identity from your self-image to your true self, you will find happiness that no one can take away from you.
True being has five qualities, none of which is created by external things, events, or other people.
1. Your true being is connected to all that exists.
2. It has no limitations.
3. It has infinite creativity.
4. It is fearless, and willing to step into the unknown.
5. Intention from the level of being is powerful and can orchestrate synchronicity ( a perfect meshing of outside circumstances to bring your intention).

CHERRY

How to Wake up Every Morning on Top of The World

How to Wake up Every Morning on Top of The World

25 Ways to Be Good for Someone Else (Be the Positivity You Want to Feel)

25 Ways to Be Good for Someone Else (Be the Positivity You Want to Feel)

PAIR OF LOTUS

25 Ways to Be Good for Someone Else (Be the Positivity You Want to Feel)

25 Ways to Be Good for Someone Else (Be the Positivity You Want to Feel)

EMOTIONAL EATING

Tips to get your weight-loss efforts back on track

Although negative emotions can trigger emotional eating, you can take steps to control cravings and renew your effort at weight loss. To help stop emotional eating, try these tips:

• Tame your stress. If stress contributes to your emotional eating, try a stress management technique, such as yoga, meditation or relaxation.
• Have a hunger reality check. Is your hunger physical or emotional? If you ate just a few hours ago and don't have a rumbling stomach, you're probably not really hungry. Give the craving a little time to pass.
• Keep a food diary. Write down what you eat, how much you eat, when you eat, how you're feeling when you eat and how hungry you are. Over time, you may see patterns emerge that reveal the connection between mood and food.
• Get support. You're more likely to give in to emotional eating if you lack a good support network. Lean on family and friends or consider joining a support group.
• Fight boredom. Instead of snacking when you're not truly hungry, distract yourself. Take a walk, watch a movie, play with your cat, listen to music, read, surf the Internet or call a friend.
• Take away temptation. Don't keep supplies of comfort foods in your home if they're hard for you to resist. And if you feel angry or blue, postpone your trip to the grocery store until you're sure that you have your emotions in check.
• Don't deprive yourself. When you're trying to achieve a weight-loss goal, you may limit your calories too much, eat the same foods frequently and banish the treats you enjoy. This may just serve to increase your food cravings, especially in response to emotions. Let yourself enjoy an occasional treat and get plenty of variety to help curb cravings.
• Snack healthy. If you feel the urge to eat between meals, choose a low-fat, low-calorie snack, such as fresh fruit, vegetables with fat-free dip, or unbuttered popcorn. Or try low-fat, lower calorie versions of your favorite foods to see if they satisfy your craving.
• Get enough sleep. If you're constantly tired, you might snack to try to give yourself an energy boost. Take a nap or go to bed earlier instead.
• Seek therapy. If you've tried self-help options but you still can't get control of your emotional eating, consider therapy with a professional mental health provider. Therapy can help you understand the motivations behind your emotional eating and help you learn new coping skills. Therapy can also help you discover whether you may have an eating disorder, which is sometimes connected to emotional eating.

If you have an episode of emotional eating, forgive yourself and start fresh the next day. Try to learn from the experience and make a plan for how you can prevent it in the future. Focus on the positive changes you're making in your eating habits and give yourself credit for making changes that'll lead to better health.

EXPLANING ABOUT ALTERNATIVE MEDICINE

When you don’t know a field or area it is better to extrapolate findings to another field or area where you have some working knowledge .For example you have little knowledge about medicines it is better to compare it with other area for example with transportation.

We have various means of transportation like you can walk, cycle, bicycle. scooter ,motorcycle, car ,jeep, bus ,truck ,train ,ships ,aero planes etc. All have its usage and importance. For example you walk in your house or you walk short distances .For short distances you can use bicycle , rickshaw ,tonga etc. For still longer distances you use scooter or mobikes . For traveling long distances like going to Delhi one uses Bus or Train. Nobody walks or cycle to Delhi.For traveling overseas you either take a plane or go by ship .You cant reach USA on cycle. Similarly one has various types of Medicines like Homeopathy ,Aurvedic , Tibbiya ,Chinese medicines, Acupuncture, Yoga ,Meditation.One has to learn the art of using each system of medicines wisely and get best results. For example acupuncture are for chronic pain only .It cannot heal a ulcer or treat cancer for you. Meditation is good for anxiety and boosting your morale.Homeopathy is good for psychological problems and for chronic diseases which are not going to heal or treated in short times .A patient of terminal cancer is better be taking homeopathy than no medicines . It is of course not going to cure him but will keep his hope alive and make his life less miserable till end. Then there are distances you can walk or cycle or go in car or mobike , similarly there are diseases where one can use any system of medicine or take no medicines but will become alright. So think before you use.

EXPLANING ABOUT MILK

EXPLANING FAT FREE MILK

It is difficult 2 ask somebody 2 stop taking milk when he has been drinking milk all his life.

I have my way of explaning  it.

Buffalow milk has 9% fat.

Cow milk has 4% fat

Humen milk has 1%  fat.

If GOD wanted U 2 have milk with 9% fat ,GOD must have given 9% fat in humen milk.

It is the GOAT milk which has 1% fat and come nearst 2 humen milk.

MAHATMA GANDHI KNEW IT in 1930 and he only consumed goat milk.He always had goat with him. It even went 2 LONDON with him for roundtable conference with Queen Victoria.

So if U want 2 drink Milk take out the poison(read fat) and make it AMRIT.

 

BLUE LOTUS

RELAXING UR MIND

If you want to lead a successful and peaceful life you have to

learn relaxation techniques for your mind and body. We often forget that

mind or brain is a machine consisting of neurones connected to each

other and to body parts.It gets tired,run out of neurotransmitters

,gets overloaded and gets influenced by various things like mood

and physical health. One has to learn to keep brain in working order

to get best work from it.

There may be various ways to achieve relaxation and some methods

may be more effective in one than others.So one will have to find

out various methods of relaxation by experimenting.

Now I will  discuss some of the methods.The list is not complete and there may be many more ways of relaxation also list is not in any order

of importance or otherwise.

1.Religion-

                   Religion  is mass tranquilliser and is great in relaxing

the tense and tired mind. It works by various beliefs which are

already in our mind .   for example the belief that what ever is happening

is by will of GOD and is for our own good.If anything goes wrong

one can always think that GOD was not willing or I must have

done something wrong in last birth to deserve this.Or the belief that we

have control on work only and fruits are given by God.

It is also universal policeman.It stops one to do anything wrong

even if no body is looking at you because of belief that GOD is always watching you.

          One should use  religion to relax when ever there is some

personal crisis or one can have a daily routine of some prayers.

2.YOGA-

          Yoga is method to concentrate your mind on something  like GOD.This is achieved by some exercises and teachings.

We know that there are two types of nervous systems in our body

voluntary and involuntary.Voluntary  nervous system controls the

functions which we have our control like moving arm or leg.

Involuntary system controls the functions which are not directly in

our control like heart,mov of intestines,urine formation etc. there is

only one function, respiration which have dual control and both

systems have control over it . so by controling breathing and taking

deep and slow breath one can start controling involuntary nervous

system which is first step to yoga. There are other yogic exercise which are helpful in achieving relaxation .  details about  various exercises and

asans are out of scope of present article and can be found in books of

yoga.

3.EXERCISE-

          Exercise relaxes the mind and make the body healthy.It

leads to release of certain chemicals in brain called endorphins

which are happy hormones of body and create a feeling of happiness

and wellbeing.These hormones are opiates of brain.

          I will be talking more on exercise as to what exercise to do,

how many times a week,how much time a day and so on.

4.SPORTS AND GAMES-

          As you can see that sports has a element of physical exercise

Apart from this there is a feeling of meeting with people,team sprit,

communication,thrill of winning  and competitiveness. It also releases

your tensions and relaxes you.

Games which have no element of physical exercise like chess,cards

etc. but need mental acuty are good for relaxing mind but falls short

of total relaxation so better be played occasionaly.

Games involving some skill but not physical activity like carom,

billiards etc. are still better as they help in forming better co-ordination

between your mind and body apart from relaxation and other benefits.

Sports with less physical activity like golf or cricket are good as can

cause relaxation of mind and feeling of well-being apart from benefits

of physical exercise.

Sports with intense physical activity like Hockey,Football,Basketball

etc. need peak physical fitness and are better played upto certain age

(<30 years).

Table tennis is a game of moderate physical activity and played indoors

is a good game for families and can be played upto 50 years of age or more

if physical condition permits.

HOW MUCH TO PLAY

HOW MANY TIMES A WEEK

PHYSICAL FITNESS

CHECKUP WITH DOCTOR

DIET

AVOIDING INJURY

5.HOBBIES-One is always advised to cultivate hobbies as it being

ones area of interest is able to relax ones minds hobbies are away

from the profession there is no competition in it therefore has little

tention.One is advised to cultivate hobbies away from the routine work.

Painting, carving terracotta,  reading, coin collection, stamp collection etc.

are good hobbies.As mind has something different to do and with no

time    to be met it becomes relaxing and drain away ones tensions.

6.READING   Though reading is a hobby I have taken it separately

as it is also essential for proper working of mind and to keep up with the recent.Reading can be either of professional books,journals etc.

or newspapers and magazines . Then there is reading of novels,litrature

,poems etc. which are very relaxing if one can cultivate the habit. 

7.TV and MOVIES   TV and Movies relaxes you by distracting your mind from present situation and take your thoughts to makebelive world of movies and drama.

8.TRAVEL AND HOLIDAYS    Holiday relaxes you by braking the routine  and travel by apart from breaking the routine also takes you away from  the present situations and thrill of seeing new things and meeting new people keeps your mind diverted which relaxes it.

9-MEDITATION    Meditation means focusing one’s mind on some thing like GOD  ,a picture ,front of your nose etc and keep it there for some time . This helps by emptying yor mind of worrying thoughts and relaxes you.

10-FRIENDS-   Friends can greatly relaxing. Cultivate people who brightens your mood and keep there company . At least there must be somebody who times of stress can lift your mood and put your thoughts on right tract.

11-VACATIONS AND TRAVEL

 There might be many more methods to relaxing and the list is not complete but the concept is important to understand and everyone must learn the trick to relax himself or herself.

FOOLS AS FRIEND VS WISE ENEMY

LESSON OF LAST NIGHT

            I was woken up by telephone bell at 2.30 AM last night .It was emergency at NH. I reached there within a minute and saw a old lady of 65 years,very breathless and irritable . I pride myself in art of history taking but little I knew that my masters exam was today. I asked the relative what is the problem .He said he has no idea and I should examine her and judge myself. I called another relative and asked the same question. He said that he was not there and had come late . I tried few more relatives without getting any answer.

I asked anybody was with the patient . Two ladies were called in .I asked what happened to patient. First one said  that she had blood pressure . I told her that BP must have been checked by Local Doctor .Why U took patient there .Answer was same –patient had BP.  I tried second lady and got same answer. All the symptoms were because of BP. Duration of symptoms and course of event could not be established. After 5 minutes of interviewing almost everyone with her all I knew was that her symptoms were recent and no other information was forthcoming.

I decided not 2 keep the patients with me and refer the patient elsewhere as CHANKYA said “ It is better 2 have wise enemy than foolish friends”. A fool as may friend is likely 2 harm U without intention.

LEVELS OF SERVICE

Maimonides, often called by his acronym RaMBaM (Rabbi Moshe Ben Maimon), was a 12th century Jewish scholar and physician. Rambam wrote a code of Jewish law, the Mishnah Torah, based on the Rabbinic oral tradition.

Rambam organized the different levels of tzedakah (charity/service) into a list from the least to the most honorable:

8. When donations are given grudgingly.

7. When one gives less than he should, but does so cheerfully.

6. When one gives directly to the poor upon being asked.

5. When one gives directly to the poor without being asked.

4. When the recipient is aware of the donor's identity, but the donor does not know the identity of the recipient.

3. When the donor is aware of the recipient's identity, but the recipient is unaware of the source.

2. When the donor and recipient are unknown to each other.

1. The highest form of charity is to help sustain a person before they become impoverished by offering a substantial gift in a dignified manner, or by extending a suitable loan, or by helping them find employment or establish themselves in business so as to make it unnecessary for them to become dependent on others.

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CONTROLING THOUGHTS -EASY WAY

CONTROLING YOUR MIND THE EASY WAY
Once we understand the importance of controling your own thoughts and your line
of thinking the next question arise is how to achieve it .
1.CONCENTRATE
2.IDENTIFY IRRITANTS
3.SWITCHING THOUGHTS
4.RELAXING MIND
5.MAKE GOALS
6.KEEP YOUR DREAMS ALIVE
7.DEFLECT THE INSULT
8.COMPARTMENTALISE YOUR MIND
9.PHYSICAL HEALTH
10.COMPANY



STEP ONE-CONCENTRATE-Learn to concentrate at work at hand.It is not difficult and can be achieved with practice. For example you are studying and your mind wanders you should try to bring it back.The span of concentration differs from person to person and usually is about 30-40 min.There are people who can concentrate for hours but is difficult to achieve. You should know your span of concentration and should have a break near around that time.
If your concentration breaks before your span of concentration, for example after only 5 minutes of study than you have to learn to bring your concentration back.If you cant concentrate at work at hand because your mind is disturbed by some thing you need diversion techniques. More of these later on .
STEP TWO-IDENTIFY THE IRRITANTS
There may be things that irritate your mind .One must learn to avoid the irritants to remain in ideal state of psyche.When you are on streets or on highway you dont pick a fight with person of better physique than yourself because you are afraid he will beat you up.But in everyday life we forget not to pick fight with bigger pahalwans(goons) ,Pahalwans in psyche .One should avoid picking a brawl with a person of stronger psyche otherwise a few minute argument might leave you psyche hurt for days and make you useless for work for hours.One is not able to concentrate for hours after getting hurt. So identify these psyche pahalwans around you ,avoid them and keep your psyche healthy.

STEP THREE-SWITCHING THOUGHTS
You must learn to switch your thoughts to subject of your choice easily.
It is as easy as switching channels of TV by your remote once you learn the trick.
One must practice switching thoughts regularly every day.One can start by making
a timetable for the same.For example
7.00am-7.15am-meditation
7.15am-7.30am-working with any subject of your choice
7.30am-7.45am-thinking about a pleasant experience you have had
7.45am-8.00am-writing about work or writing diary
and so on
It is just like making a time table with a difference that here you are switching your
thoughts faster in many areas.Later on one can decrease the time for each switch to
10 min and then to 5 minutes.
STEP FOUR-RELAXING YOU MIND
When you keep on working then your mind get tired and one is not able to
get optimal output from your mind.One must learn to have his mind working in perfect condition all the time .For this one has to learn relaxation techniques.
STEP FIVE-KEEP YOUR DREAMS ALIVE
To have healthy psyche it is important to dream.You must dare to dream
and should try to do something to realise the dreams. It is healthy to have dreams
for future. This helps a person to tide over the difficult times and keep your hopes alive for better future.
STEP SIX-MAKE GOALS
One should have goals for future. Goals can be divided in short term,mid
term and long term goals. A person having certain goals in mind doesn’t bother
about small problems of life because he set his sight higher.Suppose you are going
long distance on a highway in your car and somebody abuses you or there is minor
accident causing scratch on car you would not like to stop because you to have to travel far and you are away from your target.If you are roaming aimlessly than you are annoyed by small things on road.It is known world over that a person who has set his sight higher does,t bother about pot holes on road.
Step seven-DEFLECT THE INSULT
Many a times insult flung toward you may not be targeted toward you and
your psyche may be hurt unnecessarily in crossfire.So you have to learn to deflect
the insult.When somebody says a unpleasant thing think of following
-he may not mean it
-he may mean it for somebody else
-he is just in bad mood and is saying bad things generally
-there is some misunderstanding in his mind about the incidence
-he has not understood you perfectly
and if these things dont work try not to listen or forget things fast.In short become
chikna ghara and dont let mud stick to your mind.




STEP EIGHT-PHYSICAL HEALTH
Healthy mind live in healthy body,so keep yourself fit and healthy.

STEP NINE -COMPARTMENTALISE YOUR MIND

Create virtual compartment in your mind like on your disc drive.One should

be able to close one compartment with ease and open other.For example you are

leaving office then close this compartment and open home compartment so that

tensions and worries of office are left behind.This is specifically useful when you are

faced with tense situations and abuses.One should be able to compartmentalise the abuse .It is like stoping the fire to spread in other areas of psyche.So keep the hurt in that area only and then close the compartment to open it at time of your choice.

STEP TEN-COMPANY

Cultivate people who brightens your mood and keep there company.Atleast there must be somebody who times of stress canlift your mood and put your thoughts on right tract.

CONTROLING THOUGHTS

CONTROLING THOUGHT FIRST STEP FOR SUCCESS

            You want to succesed and you want to win the world then first you

          have to win your mind ,your thought.

          By this I mean that you have to control your thought.I  will tell you

          the problems of not controling thoughts.You are in class room and

          a teacher is teaching you and your mind keep drifting to some where            

          else then you cant learn what is being taught.

          It is a great advantage to be able to focus on a subject you want

          at any time of day,for any length of time and to switch to any other

          subject of your choice.If one is able to achieve fast switching between

          various subjects than it is even better.For a person in high position

          to be successful it is a must condition.It is like opening      newfile             

         swiftly If one is able to deal with many subjects of diversity at one time        

         it is indeed great.It is like you have many aplications going in your

          computer and working with many of them simultaneously.This may

         look difficult but we all do these things many a time.One who is able to    

         do it better is at a advantageous position in life and can achieve greater

          successes.                                            

          Controling your thoughts and change your thoughts to any direction

          becomes even more important at times of stress,danger or anger.

          For example you are sad  or you are hurt and you have to do lot of

          routine work or you have to study than it becomes important that

          you are able to switch to work at hand and your mind is not drifting

          back to your hurt feelings otherwise your performance is going to

          to be below  standerd.Anger is harmful to body and mind  and to       

          switch from angry thoughts as soon as possible is important.Even at     

          times of excitement or some things have effected your mind and your      

          thoughts keep going back and you are not able to concentrate on work

          at hand is also a common occurrence.It can occur after a good movie or

           TV programme.

                                      When you are watching TV you want the

          remote in your hand and want to be able to switch channels at will.

COOKIE STORY

A young lady was waiting for her flight in a boarding room of a big airport. 

As she should need to wait many hours, she decided to buy a book to spend her time. She also bought a pack of cookies.

She sat down in an armchair, in the VIP room of the airport, to rest and read in peace.

Beside the armchair where the packet of cookies lay, a man sat down in the next seat, opened his magazine and started reading.

When she took out the first cookie, the man took one also.

She felt irritated but said nothing.

She just thought, "What the nerve! If I was in the mood, I would punch him for daring!"

For each cookie she took, the man took one too...

This was infuriating her but she didn't want to cause a scene.

When only one cookie remained, she thought:

"Ah... what this abusive man do now?"

Then, the man taking the last cookie, divided it into half, giving her one half.

Ah! That's too much!

She was too much angry now!

In a huff, she took her book, her things and stormed to the boarding place.

When she sat down in her seat inside the plane, she looked into her purse to take her eyeglasses... and to her surprise... her packet of cookies was there, untouched... unopened!

She felt so ashamed!!!

She realized that she was wrong...

She forgotten that her cookies were kept in her purse. 

The man had divided his cookies with her, without feeling angered or bitter...

while she had been very angry, thinking that she was dividing his cookies with him.

And now, there are no chance to explain or apologize...

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THERE ARE FOUR THINGS THAT YOU CANNOT RECOVER:

 

The stone... after the throw.

The word... after it's said.

The occasion... after the loss.

The time... after its gone.