It is difficult 2 ask somebody 2 stop taking milk when he has been drinking milk all his life.
I have my way of explaning it.
Buffalow milk has 9% fat.
Cow milk has 4% fat
Humen milk has 1% fat.
If GOD wanted U 2 have milk with 9% fat ,GOD must have given 9% fat in humen milk.
It is the GOAT milk which has 1% fat and come nearst 2 humen milk.
MAHATMA GANDHI KNEW IT in 1930 and he only consumed goat milk.He always had goat with him. It even went 2 LONDON with him for roundtable conference with Queen Victoria.
So if U want 2 drink Milk take out the poison(read fat) and make it AMRIT.
If you want to lead a successful and peaceful life you have to
learn relaxation techniques for your mind and body. We often forget that
mind or brain is a machine consisting of neurones connected to each
other and to body parts.It gets tired,run out of neurotransmitters
,gets overloaded and gets influenced by various things like mood
and physical health. One has to learn to keep brain in working order
to get best work from it.
There may be various ways to achieve relaxation and some methods
may be more effective in one than others.So one will have to find
out various methods of relaxation by experimenting.
Now I will discuss some of the methods.The list is not complete and there may be many more ways of relaxation also list is not in any order
of importance or otherwise.
1.Religion-
Religion is mass tranquilliser and is great in relaxing
the tense and tired mind. It works by various beliefs which are
already in our mind . for example the belief that what ever is happening
is by will of GOD and is for our own good.If anything goes wrong
one can always think that GOD was not willing or I must have
done something wrong in last birth to deserve this.Or the belief that we
have control on work only and fruits are given by God.
It is also universal policeman.It stops one to do anything wrong
even if no body is looking at you because of belief that GOD is always watching you.
One should use religion to relax when ever there is some
personal crisis or one can have a daily routine of some prayers.
2.YOGA-
Yoga is method to concentrate your mind on something like GOD.This is achieved by some exercises and teachings.
We know that there are two types of nervous systems in our body
voluntary and involuntary.Voluntary nervous system controls the
functions which we have our control like moving arm or leg.
Involuntary system controls the functions which are not directly in
our control like heart,mov of intestines,urine formation etc. there is
only one function, respiration which have dual control and both
systems have control over it . so by controling breathing and taking
deep and slow breath one can start controling involuntary nervous
system which is first step to yoga. There are other yogic exercise which are helpful in achieving relaxation . details about various exercises and
asans are out of scope of present article and can be found in books of
yoga.
3.EXERCISE-
Exercise relaxes the mind and make the body healthy.It
leads to release of certain chemicals in brain called endorphins
which are happy hormones of body and create a feeling of happiness
and wellbeing.These hormones are opiates of brain.
I will be talking more on exercise as to what exercise to do,
how many times a week,how much time a day and so on.
4.SPORTS AND GAMES-
As you can see that sports has a element of physical exercise
Apart from this there is a feeling of meeting with people,team sprit,
communication,thrill of winning and competitiveness. It also releases
your tensions and relaxes you.
Games which have no element of physical exercise like chess,cards
etc. but need mental acuty are good for relaxing mind but falls short
of total relaxation so better be played occasionaly.
Games involving some skill but not physical activity like carom,
billiards etc. are still better as they help in forming better co-ordination
between your mind and body apart from relaxation and other benefits.
Sports with less physical activity like golf or cricket are good as can
cause relaxation of mind and feeling of well-being apart from benefits
of physical exercise.
Sports with intense physical activity like Hockey,Football,Basketball
etc. need peak physical fitness and are better played upto certain age
(<30 years).
Table tennis is a game of moderate physical activity and played indoors
is a good game for families and can be played upto 50 years of age or more
if physical condition permits.
HOW MUCH TO PLAY
HOW MANY TIMES A WEEK
PHYSICAL FITNESS
CHECKUP WITH DOCTOR
DIET
AVOIDING INJURY
5.HOBBIES-One is always advised to cultivate hobbies as it being
ones area of interest is able to relax ones minds hobbies are away
from the profession there is no competition in it therefore has little
tention.One is advised to cultivate hobbies away from the routine work.
Painting, carving terracotta, reading, coin collection, stamp collection etc.
are good hobbies.As mind has something different to do and with no
time to be met it becomes relaxing and drain away ones tensions.
6.READING Though reading is a hobby I have taken it separately
as it is also essential for proper working of mind and to keep up with the recent.Reading can be either of professional books,journals etc.
or newspapers and magazines . Then there is reading of novels,litrature
,poems etc. which are very relaxing if one can cultivate the habit.
7.TV and MOVIES TV and Movies relaxes you by distracting your mind from present situation and take your thoughts to makebelive world of movies and drama.
8.TRAVEL AND HOLIDAYS Holiday relaxes you by braking the routine and travel by apart from breaking the routine also takes you away from the present situations and thrill of seeing new things and meeting new people keeps your mind diverted which relaxes it.
9-MEDITATION Meditation means focusing one’s mind on some thing like GOD ,a picture ,front of your nose etc and keep it there for some time . This helps by emptying yor mind of worrying thoughts and relaxes you.
10-FRIENDS-Friends can greatly relaxing.Cultivate people who brightens your mood and keep there company . At least there must be somebody who times of stress can lift your mood and put your thoughts on right tract.
11-VACATIONS AND TRAVEL
There might be many more methods to relaxing and the list is not complete but the concept is important to understand and everyone must learn the trick to relax himself or herself.
I was woken up by telephone bell at 2.30 AM last night .It was emergency at NH. I reached there within a minute and saw a old lady of 65 years,very breathless and irritable . I pride myself in art of history taking but little I knew that my masters exam was today. I asked the relative what is the problem .He said he has no idea and I should examine her and judge myself. I called another relative and asked the same question. He said that he was not there and had come late . I tried few more relatives without getting any answer.
I asked anybody was with the patient . Two ladies were called in .I asked what happened to patient. First one said that she had blood pressure . I told her that BP must have been checked by Local Doctor .Why U took patient there .Answer was same –patient had BP. I tried second lady and got same answer. All the symptoms were because of BP. Duration of symptoms and course of event could not be established. After 5 minutes of interviewing almost everyone with her all I knew was that her symptoms were recent and no other information was forthcoming.
I decided not 2 keep the patients with me and refer the patient elsewhere as CHANKYA said “ It is better 2 have wise enemy than foolish friends”. A fool as may friend is likely 2 harm U without intention.
Maimonides, often called by his acronym RaMBaM (Rabbi Moshe Ben Maimon), was a 12th century Jewish scholar and physician. Rambam wrote a code of Jewish law, the Mishnah Torah, based on the Rabbinic oral tradition.
Rambam organized the different levels of tzedakah (charity/service) into a list from the least to the most honorable:
8. When donations are given grudgingly.
7. When one gives less than he should, but does so cheerfully.
6. When one gives directly to the poor upon being asked.
5. When one gives directly to the poor without being asked.
4. When the recipient is aware of the donor's identity, but the donor does not know the identity of the recipient.
3. When the donor is aware of the recipient's identity, but the recipient is unaware of the source.
2. When the donor and recipient are unknown to each other.
1. The highest form of charity is to help sustain a person before they become impoverished by offering a substantial gift in a dignified manner, or by extending a suitable loan, or by helping them find employment or establish themselves in business so as to make it unnecessary for them to become dependent on others.
CONTROLING YOUR MIND THE EASY WAY
Once we understand the importance of controling your own thoughts and your line
of thinking the next question arise is how to achieve it .
1.CONCENTRATE
2.IDENTIFY IRRITANTS
3.SWITCHING THOUGHTS
4.RELAXING MIND
5.MAKE GOALS
6.KEEP YOUR DREAMS ALIVE
7.DEFLECT THE INSULT
8.COMPARTMENTALISE YOUR MIND
9.PHYSICAL HEALTH
10.COMPANY
STEP ONE-CONCENTRATE-Learn to concentrate at work at hand.It is not difficult and can be achieved with practice. For example you are studying and your mind wanders you should try to bring it back.The span of concentration differs from person to person and usually is about 30-40 min.There are people who can concentrate for hours but is difficult to achieve. You should know your span of concentration and should have a break near around that time.
If your concentration breaks before your span of concentration, for example after only 5 minutes of study than you have to learn to bring your concentration back.If you cant concentrate at work at hand because your mind is disturbed by some thing you need diversion techniques. More of these later on .
STEP TWO-IDENTIFY THE IRRITANTS
There may be things that irritate your mind .One must learn to avoid the irritants to remain in ideal state of psyche.When you are on streets or on highway you dont pick a fight with person of better physique than yourself because you are afraid he will beat you up.But in everyday life we forget not to pick fight with bigger pahalwans(goons) ,Pahalwans in psyche .One should avoid picking a brawl with a person of stronger psyche otherwise a few minute argument might leave you psyche hurt for days and make you useless for work for hours.One is not able to concentrate for hours after getting hurt. So identify these psyche pahalwans around you ,avoid them and keep your psyche healthy.
STEP THREE-SWITCHING THOUGHTS
You must learn to switch your thoughts to subject of your choice easily.
It is as easy as switching channels of TV by your remote once you learn the trick.
One must practice switching thoughts regularly every day.One can start by making
a timetable for the same.For example
7.00am-7.15am-meditation
7.15am-7.30am-working with any subject of your choice
7.30am-7.45am-thinking about a pleasant experience you have had
7.45am-8.00am-writing about work or writing diary
and so on
It is just like making a time table with a difference that here you are switching your
thoughts faster in many areas.Later on one can decrease the time for each switch to
10 min and then to 5 minutes.
STEP FOUR-RELAXING YOU MIND
When you keep on working then your mind get tired and one is not able to
get optimal output from your mind.One must learn to have his mind working in perfect condition all the time .For this one has to learn relaxation techniques.
STEP FIVE-KEEP YOUR DREAMS ALIVE
To have healthy psyche it is important to dream.You must dare to dream
and should try to do something to realise the dreams. It is healthy to have dreams
for future. This helps a person to tide over the difficult times and keep your hopes alive for better future.
STEP SIX-MAKE GOALS
One should have goals for future. Goals can be divided in short term,mid
term and long term goals. A person having certain goals in mind doesn’t bother
about small problems of life because he set his sight higher.Suppose you are going
long distance on a highway in your car and somebody abuses you or there is minor
accident causing scratch on car you would not like to stop because you to have to travel far and you are away from your target.If you are roaming aimlessly than you are annoyed by small things on road.It is known world over that a person who has set his sight higher does,t bother about pot holes on road.
Step seven-DEFLECT THE INSULT
Many a times insult flung toward you may not be targeted toward you and
your psyche may be hurt unnecessarily in crossfire.So you have to learn to deflect
the insult.When somebody says a unpleasant thing think of following
-he may not mean it
-he may mean it for somebody else
-he is just in bad mood and is saying bad things generally
-there is some misunderstanding in his mind about the incidence
-he has not understood you perfectly
and if these things dont work try not to listen or forget things fast.In short become
chikna ghara and dont let mud stick to your mind.
STEP EIGHT-PHYSICAL HEALTH
Healthy mind live in healthy body,so keep yourself fit and healthy.
STEP NINE -COMPARTMENTALISE YOUR MIND
Create virtual compartment in your mind like on your disc drive.One should
be able to close one compartment with ease and open other.For example you are
leaving office then close this compartment and open home compartment so that
tensions and worries of office are left behind.This is specifically useful when you are
faced with tense situations and abuses.One should be able to compartmentalise the abuse .It is like stoping the fire to spread in other areas of psyche.So keep the hurt in that area only and then close the compartment to open it at time of your choice.
STEP TEN-COMPANY
Cultivate people who brightens your mood and keep there company.Atleast there must be somebody who times of stress canlift your mood and put your thoughts on right tract.
